Many Singaporean parents believe that co-sleeping is for the better. While other Western cultures see co-sleeping as a social taboo, what matters most at the end of the day is what you believe in. Co-sleeping is also called “sharing sleep”. This is a parenting practice where parents and children share the “family bed”.
Seeing it as a social taboo is unfounded. Parents who share sleep with toddlers or even older children reported many benefits. To discuss it further, here are the benefits of co-sleeping:
- It fosters independence and trust. Many parents are afraid that if they encourage co-sleeping, the kid will grow dependent. While it is good to encourage children to sleep alone, you shouldn’t do it hurriedly. Remember that they are babies or toddlers once, you have to enjoy it. It will not foster dependence. In fact, it will be the other way around. When you share sleep with your kids, you are teaching them that they can trust those around them and eventually be independent.
- It makes children feel more secure. The image of children thumb sucking or carrying a blanket is a common sight but what does this really tell you? These children do not feel safe enough that they tend to rely on those habits. When you share sleep with your kids, they do not need to feel more secure because you are there. In this society, children are now taught to self-soothe. As a result, parents let them find security objects. But why not provide them comfort by your presence?
- It is an excellent bonding moment. Parents do not realize this but when you allow your kids to your bed, it sends a strong message saying “you can reach us day or night”. The countless hours or snuggles can be an excellent bonding moment. You won’t realize it but it can have a positive impact on your children’s self-esteem.
- It encourages good sleep. There is no question that during their infancy, you share sleep because you need to nurse them. As they get older and you want them to be dependent, you thought it is for the better to leave them in their rooms. That is where you are wrong. As long as your child is comfortable, co-sleeping can encourage good sleep.
Co-sleeping is not that bad. With the benefits mentioned above, you can give it to your children effortlessly. If you need bigger bed, then do it. It is fun to co-sleep if you give it a chance.